கருப்பை புற்றுநோய் கண்டறிதல்

We used to stay in Shimla, where we had the best food, atmosphere and weather. Our life was going pretty amazingly. My wife had pain during her regular menstruation cycles but was fine otherwise. In October 2015, when I was on tour in Delhi, she called me and said she had excessive pain. Since I was out of town, some of my colleagues and cousins took her for an அல்ட்ராசவுண்ட் the next day, and we learned that there was a massive cyst in her stomach. I was not very confident about Shimla, so I called her to Delhi, and we moved to Ahmedabad as her parents live there.

We found a malignant cyst when the investigation started, and she was diagnosed with stage 4 கருப்பை புற்றுநோய். She was 45 then, and so fit that she hadn't taken any medication other than the polio vaccines we got in our childhood until the ovarian Cancer diagnosis. She used to do yoga and was a perfect homemaker. She managed everything very beautifully. Every cause of cancer we read about was not applicable to her case, and that was very shocking news for us, but we went ahead because we had to accept the reality.

கருப்பை புற்றுநோய் சிகிச்சை

We had Surgery, and the doctor was very confident about the surgery. He also said that she had to undergo one round of chemotherapy for six months, and then she would be fine.

தி அறுவை சிகிச்சை went perfectly. She was not aware then that she had cancer; the wound was so deep, and we didn't want her to break down. The doctor was so helpful that he said he would disclose this news to her when she would be ready to hear it. We all had to hide it and act in front of her like she was okay.

After the surgery, the doctor disclosed the news, and it was a very emotional moment, but we were there to support her. It was already 10-15 days before we came to know about this news, so we all had already been through the phase, but she was entering that phase, and we supported her in every way we could.

We started her chemotherapy even though her பிஇடி scan was yet to received. The senior oncologist advised that we go for one round of chemotherapy because her age was just 45 then. We took the second and third opinions, and all the doctors said the same thing, so we decided to go for chemotherapy. She had side effects like hair loss, but we supported her, and through her strong willpower, she came through bravely.

The chemotherapy went on till March 2016, and then she was excellent and ready to return to Shimla. We went to Shimla in March, and we resumed our happy lives. As a teacher, she just took a rest for two months because I insisted on it, and then she rejoined her school.

திடீர் மறுபிறப்பு

நாங்கள் தொடர்ந்து சோதனைகளைச் செய்துகொண்டிருந்தோம், எங்கள் வாழ்க்கை அற்புதமாகச் சென்றுகொண்டிருந்தது. ஆனால் வாழ்க்கை சீராகப் போகிறது என்று நினைக்கும் போதே உங்களை கடுமையாக தாக்குகிறது. புற்றுநோய் எப்போது வேண்டுமானாலும் மீண்டும் வரலாம். திடீரென்று, செப்டம்பர் 2017 இல், நாங்கள் ரக்ஷா பந்தன் அன்று சண்டிகருக்குச் சென்றபோது, ​​அறிக்கைகள் நன்றாக இல்லை. எங்கள் மருத்துவர்களை மாற்ற வேண்டாம் என்று முடிவு செய்ததால், அகமதாபாத்தில் உள்ள அதே இடத்தில் மீண்டும் அந்த வழக்கமான சோதனைகள் அனைத்தையும் செய்ய முடிவு செய்தோம். இரண்டாவது கருத்தை எடுப்பது பரவாயில்லை, ஆனால் நாம் நம் மருத்துவர்களை நம்ப வேண்டும்.

We went to the same doctor and planned the Surgery, but we took time because my wife was reluctant to allopathic treatment. Since she had already gone through surgery and Chemotherapy, she wanted to try something like Yoga, spirituality, and நேச்சுரோபதி.

We tried other treatments for one month at Ahmedabad, but those were not beneficial because Cancer has its effects. The reports started to worsen, and then I put my foot down and told her that we had to go for surgery. It wasn't easy to convince her, but in the end, she agreed to it.

We went for a minor surgery in Mumbai to check whether it was Cancer or not. We got the tests done, and the doctor had the same opinion that we go for surgery. We then planned for a HipecSurgery. We decided to undergo surgery in Ahmedabad itself because we had a lot of relatives there.

The surgery started, but unfortunately, the ovarian cancer had spread a lot, and due to it, the doctors had to make an instant decision of not going through with the HipecSurgery because it would have been more disastrous to her. The doctors started scrapping everywhere they could find Cancer, which was a 13-hour-long surgery.

She was in ICU for two days, and her recovery was excellent. The doctor suggested a chemo port so that she could be confident in taking chemotherapies. Later, the chemotherapy started, and it went on for almost a year. She became very comfortable with that routine.

Meanwhile, my elder daughter was in her final year, and my younger daughter was giving her 10th board, so I had to go back to Shimla for their exams. As it was very difficult for me to travel to Shimla again and again because the treatment was very long, I decided to shift my family to Ahmedabad.

அவள் மீண்டும் குணமடைந்தாள், அவளுடைய ஆரோக்கியமான வாழ்க்கை மீண்டும் தொடங்கியது. பத்து வருடங்களுக்குப் பிறகு அல்லது ஆறு மாதங்களுக்குப் பிறகு புற்றுநோய் மீண்டும் வந்தால், நான் அவளை அலோபதி சிகிச்சைக்கு செல்ல விடமாட்டேன் என்று அவள் எனக்கு உறுதியளித்தாள். கடந்த மூன்றரை ஆண்டுகளாக அவள் கஷ்டப்படுவதை நான் பார்த்ததால் நான் அவளுக்கு சத்தியம் செய்ய வேண்டியிருந்தது.

வாழ்க்கையின் விளையாட்டு

Life seems to give us more surprises when we think everything is going well. In November 2019, she again felt a lump in her stomach. We got it confirmed that it was an Ovarian Cancerrelapse itself. I asked my wife what we had to do, but she reminded me of our promise not to go for allopathic treatment. She used to tell me that destiny is there, God has written the number of days in our lives, and we cannot do much with it. I could not argue with her on that point, and we left it on destiny. The third time, we accepted that we were losing this battle.

We didn't tell anyone in the house because then everyone would become tense again. So it stayed only between us, and we told our children about it after two months.

டிசம்பரில் எங்கள் சில்வர் ஜூபிலி திருமண ஆண்டு விழாவைக் கொண்டாடினோம். நாங்கள் அதைக் கொண்டாட விரும்பினோம், ஏனென்றால் அவள் கலந்துகொள்ளும் கடைசி விழாக்களில் ஒன்றாக இது அமையும் என்று நானும் உணர்ந்தேன். நாங்கள் எங்கள் திருமண தருணங்களை மீண்டும் உருவாக்கி எங்கள் குடும்பம் மற்றும் உறவினர்களுடன் கொண்டாடினோம்.

பிப்ரவரி 2020 இல் அவரது உடல்நிலை மெதுவாக மோசமடையத் தொடங்கியது. அவர் உடல் எடையை குறைக்கத் தொடங்கினார். அவர் ஒரு சிறந்த இல்லத்தரசி, எனவே அவர் எல்லாவற்றையும் சரியான முறையில் ஒழுங்கமைக்க விரும்பினார். பூட்டுதலின் போது வேலையாட்கள் வரவில்லை, மேலும் அவள் அதிக வேலை செய்ய ஆரம்பித்தாள், இது அவளுடைய உடல்நிலையை பாதித்தது.

The death of Irfan Khan and Rishi Kapoor affected her a lot. She said that Rishi Kapoor and Irfan Khan had the best doctors and treatment; they went to the US and UK, but they still could not survive. So I should leave her on her own because it's all about destiny. I told her that we could start a palliative treatment at home, and she got ready for it. We arranged palliative care treatment at home, which went on for 2-3 months, and then she felt we should stop that, too, because it was very painful. The treatment also wasn't working well for her.

யாரும் விரும்பாத முடிவு

அவள் எங்கள் மகள்களைப் பற்றி நினைத்துக் கொண்டிருந்தாள், அவர்களை செட்டில் செய்து திருமணம் செய்ய விரும்பினாள். அதிக நேரம் இல்லை என்று மனதிற்குள் நினைத்துக் கொண்டு, திட்டமிட்டுச் செய்ய ஆரம்பித்தாள். தினமும் எங்கள் மகள்களுக்கு போன் செய்து தன்னிடம் உள்ள நகைகளை எல்லாம் சொல்லிக் கொண்டிருந்தாள். குடும்பத்தில் உள்ள மற்ற பெண்களைக் கூட்டி ஒரு பட்டியலைத் தயாரித்து எல்லாவற்றையும் திட்டமிடுவாள். எதற்கு இப்படியெல்லாம் செய்கிறாள், மீண்டும் நலமாக இருப்பாள் என்று நாங்கள் அவளிடம் கேட்போம், ஆனால் அவள் மனதில் முடிவு வரப்போகிறது என்று தெரிந்தது.

Still, we were fighting with a smiling face and enjoying ourselves because we wanted her to be comfortable with whatever journey was left. She wanted to live comfortably in her last days. Everyone needs a graceful release. She used to say that she wanted to go because she was suffering. She was so fit; she never ate any junk food, used to do regular yoga and walk and had a very disciplined life overall.

கடைசியில் தண்ணீர் குடித்தாலும் வாந்தி எடுத்தாள். லாவகமாகப் போக வேண்டும் என்று சொல்லிக் கொண்டிருந்தாள். கடந்த பத்து நாட்களில், அவள் என்னை பூஜை மற்றும் பிரார்த்தனை செய்ய விடாமல் தடுத்தாள். அப்போது அவள் செல்வது கடினம் என்பதால் எதுவும் செய்ய வேண்டாம் என்று கேட்டாள்

In the last 3-4 days, she told me that the nurse would need to come only for 3-4 days more, and when I was making a payment to someone for her treatment, she said that it was the last payment I was making; she knew what was coming next. We didn't accept that because it was so difficult to accept such things for your loved ones. She used to make a menu for our breakfast, lunch and dinner. She made a menu from Monday evening till Tuesday night, but then her health started deteriorating, and we realized that she did not have much time left.

Ten people were surrounding her bed, and she was looking into everyone's eyes, but she did not recognize anyone. It was a blank look; she was turning around and crying and fighting with everyone, irrespective of who it was. We felt that someone came to take her to the other world, but she didn't want to go and fought with them because she still wanted to be here with us. In the end, I ran to the temple, took the scissors and cut all the pooja things that were there on her body because I wanted her to be released, as we could not see all that. My close relatives asked my daughters and me to move out of the room because she would not go anywhere if she saw us, so we went outside. Then, within half an hour, she moved for her heavenly abode. We were called into the room in the last 2-3 minutes because everyone knew that she was taking her last breath.

We were prepared for the inevitable for the last six months, but that didn't make it any easier when it happened. We still feel that the doorbell will ring, and she will come back from a holiday, or she will call us from her room to help her. I believe every couple should have an end-of-life conversation. Now, I don't have any stress about what I have to do because she has told me everything; I know what her wishes are and what she wants. There is always a gap in life that no one can fill, but being courageous and smiling is the only option we have.

பிரிவுச் செய்தி

Don't panic, and stay strong. Believe in destiny. Trust your doctors. Support each other, and do not let the patient feel guilty for the care the caregiver is doing. Cancer is still a taboo in India; we should treat Cancer as a normal disease. Nobody has an answer for why Cancer happens to anyone, so don't ask 'why me.' The doctor should be very clear about all the things, and the patient should always have faith in his/her doctor. Never Google for Cancer because everyone has a different experience with it.

பராமரிப்பாளர்கள் உடல் ரீதியாகவும், மன ரீதியாகவும், உணர்ச்சி ரீதியாகவும், நிதி ரீதியாகவும் மிகவும் பாதிக்கப்படுகின்றனர். அவர்களுக்கும் இது கடினமான பயணம், ஆனால் ஒவ்வொரு பராமரிப்பாளரும் தைரியமாக இருக்க முயற்சிக்க வேண்டும் மற்றும் விஷயங்களை அப்படியே ஏற்றுக்கொள்ள வேண்டும். நோயாளியின் ஒவ்வொரு விருப்பத்தையும் அவர்கள் நிறைவேற்ற முயற்சிக்க வேண்டும்.

எனது பயணத்தை இங்கே பாருங்கள்