رحم جي ڪينسر جي تشخيص

We used to stay in Shimla, where we had the best food, atmosphere and weather. Our life was going pretty amazingly. My wife had pain during her regular menstruation cycles but was fine otherwise. In October 2015, when I was on tour in Delhi, she called me and said she had excessive pain. Since I was out of town, some of my colleagues and cousins took her for an Ultrasound the next day, and we learned that there was a massive cyst in her stomach. I was not very confident about Shimla, so I called her to Delhi, and we moved to Ahmedabad as her parents live there.

We found a malignant cyst when the investigation started, and she was diagnosed with stage 4 ويڙهاڪ ڪينسر. She was 45 then, and so fit that she hadn't taken any medication other than the polio vaccines we got in our childhood until the ovarian Cancer diagnosis. She used to do yoga and was a perfect homemaker. She managed everything very beautifully. Every cause of cancer we read about was not applicable to her case, and that was very shocking news for us, but we went ahead because we had to accept the reality.

ٻچڙ جي ڪينسر جو علاج

We had Surgery, and the doctor was very confident about the surgery. He also said that she had to undergo one round of chemotherapy for six months, and then she would be fine.

هن جراحي went perfectly. She was not aware then that she had cancer; the wound was so deep, and we didn't want her to break down. The doctor was so helpful that he said he would disclose this news to her when she would be ready to hear it. We all had to hide it and act in front of her like she was okay.

After the surgery, the doctor disclosed the news, and it was a very emotional moment, but we were there to support her. It was already 10-15 days before we came to know about this news, so we all had already been through the phase, but she was entering that phase, and we supported her in every way we could.

We started her chemotherapy even though her PET scan was yet to received. The senior oncologist advised that we go for one round of chemotherapy because her age was just 45 then. We took the second and third opinions, and all the doctors said the same thing, so we decided to go for chemotherapy. She had side effects like hair loss, but we supported her, and through her strong willpower, she came through bravely.

The chemotherapy went on till March 2016, and then she was excellent and ready to return to Shimla. We went to Shimla in March, and we resumed our happy lives. As a teacher, she just took a rest for two months because I insisted on it, and then she rejoined her school.

اوچتو ڦري وڃڻ

اسان باقاعده ٽيسٽ حاصل ڪري رهيا هئاسين، ۽ اسان جي زندگي شاندار ٿي رهي هئي. پر زندگي توهان کي سخت ماريندي آهي جڏهن توهان سوچيو ته اهو آسان ٿي رهيو آهي. ڪينسر ڪنهن به وقت ٻيهر ٿي سگهي ٿو. اوچتو، سيپٽمبر 2017 ۾، جڏهن اسان رکشا بندھن تي چندي گڑھ وياسون، رپورٽون سٺيون نه هيون. اسان فيصلو ڪيو ته انهن سڀني معمولي چيڪ اپ لاءِ ٻيهر احمد آباد ۾ ساڳئي جاءِ تي جتان اسان پنهنجي ڊاڪٽرن کي تبديل نه ڪرڻ جو فيصلو ڪيو. ٻي راءِ وٺڻ ٺيڪ آهي، پر اسان کي پنهنجي ڊاڪٽرن تي ڀروسو ڪرڻ گهرجي.

We went to the same doctor and planned the Surgery, but we took time because my wife was reluctant to allopathic treatment. Since she had already gone through surgery and Chemotherapy, she wanted to try something like Yoga, spirituality, and قدرتياتي.

We tried other treatments for one month at Ahmedabad, but those were not beneficial because Cancer has its effects. The reports started to worsen, and then I put my foot down and told her that we had to go for surgery. It wasn't easy to convince her, but in the end, she agreed to it.

We went for a minor surgery in Mumbai to check whether it was Cancer or not. We got the tests done, and the doctor had the same opinion that we go for surgery. We then planned for a HipecSurgery. We decided to undergo surgery in Ahmedabad itself because we had a lot of relatives there.

The surgery started, but unfortunately, the ovarian cancer had spread a lot, and due to it, the doctors had to make an instant decision of not going through with the HipecSurgery because it would have been more disastrous to her. The doctors started scrapping everywhere they could find Cancer, which was a 13-hour-long surgery.

She was in ICU for two days, and her recovery was excellent. The doctor suggested a chemo port so that she could be confident in taking chemotherapies. Later, the chemotherapy started, and it went on for almost a year. She became very comfortable with that routine.

Meanwhile, my elder daughter was in her final year, and my younger daughter was giving her 10th board, so I had to go back to Shimla for their exams. As it was very difficult for me to travel to Shimla again and again because the treatment was very long, I decided to shift my family to Ahmedabad.

هوءَ ٻيهر ٺيڪ ٿي وئي، ۽ هن جي صحتمند زندگي ٻيهر شروع ٿي. پوءِ هن مون سان واعدو ڪيو ته جيڪڏهن ڪينسر ٻيهر ظاهر ٿئي ٿو، چاهي ڏهن سالن کان پوءِ يا ڇهن مهينن کان پوءِ، مان هن کي ايلوپيٿڪ علاج لاءِ وڃڻ نه ڏيندس. ۽ مون کي هن سان واعدو ڪرڻو پيو، ڇاڪاڻ ته مون هن کي گذريل ساڍن ٽن سالن کان ڏک ڏٺا هئا.

زندگيءَ جي راند

Life seems to give us more surprises when we think everything is going well. In November 2019, she again felt a lump in her stomach. We got it confirmed that it was an Ovarian Cancerrelapse itself. I asked my wife what we had to do, but she reminded me of our promise not to go for allopathic treatment. She used to tell me that destiny is there, God has written the number of days in our lives, and we cannot do much with it. I could not argue with her on that point, and we left it on destiny. The third time, we accepted that we were losing this battle.

اسان گهر ۾ ڪنهن کي به نه ٻڌايو ڇو ته پوءِ سڀ ڪجهه پريشان ٿي ويندا. تنهنڪري اهو صرف اسان جي وچ ۾ رهي، ۽ اسان پنهنجن ٻارن کي ٻن مهينن کان پوء ٻڌايو.

ڊسمبر ۾ اسان جي سلور جوبلي شادي جي سالگره هئي. اسان ان کي جشن ڪرڻ چاهيندا هئاسين، ڇاڪاڻ ته مون محسوس ڪيو ته اهو هڪ آخري فنڪشن بڻجي سگهي ٿو جنهن ۾ هوء شرڪت ڪرڻ جي قابل هوندي. اسان پنهنجي شادي جي لمحن کي ٻيهر ٺاهيو ۽ پنهنجي خاندان ۽ مائٽن سان جشن ڪيو.

فيبروري 2020 ۾ هن جي صحت آهستي آهستي خراب ٿيڻ لڳي. هن وزن گهٽائڻ شروع ڪيو. هوءَ هڪ بهترين گهر واري هئي، تنهنڪري هوءَ هر شيءِ کي صحيح انداز ۾ ترتيب ڏيڻ پسند ڪندي هئي. لاڪ ڊائون دوران نوڪر نه اچي رهيا هئا ۽ هوءَ وڌيڪ ڪم ڪرڻ لڳي، جنهن ڪري سندس صحت متاثر ٿي.

عرفان خان ۽ رشي ڪپور جي موت کيس تمام گهڻو متاثر ڪيو. هن چيو ته رشي ڪپور ۽ عرفان خان وٽ بهترين ڊاڪٽر ۽ علاج آهن. اهي آمريڪا ۽ برطانيه ڏانهن ويا، پر اهي اڃا تائين زنده نه رهي سگهيا. تنهن ڪري مون کي هن کي اڪيلو ڇڏڻ گهرجي ڇو ته اهو سڀ ڪجهه تقدير بابت آهي. مون هن کي ٻڌايو ته اسان گهر ۾ هڪ فالج جو علاج شروع ڪري سگهون ٿا، ۽ هوء ان لاء تيار ٿي وئي. اسان گهر ۾ فالج جي علاج جو بندوبست ڪيو، جيڪو 2-3 مهينن تائين هلندو رهيو، ۽ پوءِ هن محسوس ڪيو ته اسان کي اهو به بند ڪرڻ گهرجي، ڇاڪاڻ ته اها ڏاڍي ڏکوئيندڙ هئي. علاج پڻ هن لاء سٺو ڪم نه ڪري رهيو هو.

جنهن جي ڪنهن به خواهش نه ڪئي

هوءَ اسان جي ڌيئرن جي باري ۾ سوچيندي هئي ۽ چاهيندي هئي ته اهي آباد ٿين ۽ شادي ڪن. هن جي ذهن ۾ اهو هو ته هن وٽ گهڻو وقت نه هو، تنهنڪري هن تمام گهڻي رٿابندي ڪرڻ شروع ڪئي. هوءَ هر روز اسان جي ڌيئرن کي سڏيندي هئي ۽ کين ٻڌائيندي هئي ته هن وٽ جيڪي زيور هئا. هوءَ خاندان جي ٻين عورتن کي گڏ ڪري هڪ فهرست ٺاهيندي هئي ۽ هر شي جي رٿابندي ڪندي هئي. اسان کانئس پڇندا هئاسين ته هوءَ اهو سڀ ڪجهه ڇو ڪري رهي آهي ۽ هوءَ ٻيهر ٺيڪ ٿي ويندي، پر هن جي ذهن جي پٺڀرائي ۾، هن کي خبر هئي ته آخر اچڻ وارو آهي.

Still, we were fighting with a smiling face and enjoying ourselves because we wanted her to be comfortable with whatever journey was left. She wanted to live comfortably in her last days. Everyone needs a graceful release. She used to say that she wanted to go because she was suffering. She was so fit; she never ate any junk food, used to do regular yoga and walk and had a very disciplined life overall.

آخر پاڻي پيئڻ کان پوءِ به هوءَ الٽي ڪندي هئي. هوءَ چوندي هئي ته هوءَ خوشيءَ سان وڃڻ چاهي ٿي. گذريل ڏهن ڏينهن ۾، هن مون کي پوڄا ۽ نماز ڪرڻ کان روڪي ڇڏيو. هن مون کي ڪجهه نه ڪرڻ لاءِ چيو ڇو ته پوءِ هن لاءِ وڃڻ مشڪل ٿي ويندو

گذريل 3-4 ڏينهن ۾، هن مون کي ٻڌايو ته نرس کي صرف 3-4 ڏينهن وڌيڪ اچڻو پوندو، ۽ جڏهن مان ڪنهن کي هن جي علاج لاءِ پئسا ڏئي رهيو هوس ته هن چيو ته اها آخري ادائيگي آهي جيڪا مان ادا ڪري رهيو آهيان. ؛ هوء ڄاڻي ٿي ته ايندڙ ڇا آهي. اسان اهو قبول نه ڪيو ڇو ته توهان جي پيارن لاء اهڙيون شيون قبول ڪرڻ تمام ڏکيو هو. هوءَ اسان جي ناشتي، لنچ ۽ رات جي ماني لاءِ مينيو ٺاهيندي هئي. هن سومر جي شام کان اڱاري جي رات تائين مينيو ٺاهيو، پر پوءِ هن جي صحت خراب ٿيڻ لڳي، ۽ اسان محسوس ڪيو ته هن وٽ گهڻو وقت نه آهي.

هن جي بستري جي چوڌاري ڏهه ماڻهو بيٺا هئا، ۽ هوءَ سڀني جي اکين ۾ ڏسي رهي هئي، پر هن ڪنهن کي به نه سڃاتو. اهو هڪ خالي نظر هو؛ هوءَ ڦري رهي هئي ۽ روئي رهي هئي ۽ سڀني سان وڙهندي هئي، قطع نظر ته اهو ڪير هو. اسان محسوس ڪيو ته ڪو کيس ٻي دنيا ۾ وٺي وڃڻ لاءِ آيو آهي، پر هوءَ وڃڻ نه ٿي چاهي ۽ ساڻن وڙهندي رهي، ڇو ته هوءَ اڃا به هتي اسان سان گڏ رهڻ ٿي چاهي. آخر ۾، مان ڀڄندي مندر ڏانهن ويس، قينچي ورتي ۽ هن جي جسم تي موجود پوجا جون سڀ شيون ڪٽي ڇڏيون، ڇاڪاڻ ته مون چاهيو ٿي ته هن کي آزاد ڪيو وڃي، جيئن اسان اهو سڀ ڪجهه نه ڏسي سگهون. منهنجي ويجهن مائٽن مون کي ۽ منهنجي ڌيئرن کي ڪمري مان ٻاهر وڃڻ لاءِ چيو ڇو ته هوءَ ڪٿي به نه ويندي جيڪڏهن هوءَ اسان کي ڏسندي، تنهنڪري اسان ٻاهر نڪري وياسين. پوءِ، اڌ ڪلاڪ اندر، هوءَ پنهنجي آسماني گهر ڏانهن هلي وئي. اسان کي آخري 2-3 منٽن ۾ ڪمري ۾ سڏيو ويو ڇاڪاڻ ته سڀني کي خبر هئي ته هوء پنهنجي آخري سانس وٺي رهي هئي.

We were prepared for the inevitable for the last six months, but that didn't make it any easier when it happened. We still feel that the doorbell will ring, and she will come back from a holiday, or she will call us from her room to help her. I believe every couple should have an end-of-life conversation. Now, I don't have any stress about what I have to do because she has told me everything; I know what her wishes are and what she wants. There is always a gap in life that no one can fill, but being courageous and smiling is the only option we have.

جدائي جو پيغام

پريشان نه ٿيو، ۽ مضبوط رهو. تقدير ۾ يقين رکو. پنھنجي ڊاڪٽرن تي اعتبار ڪريو. هڪ ٻئي جي مدد ڪريو، ۽ مريض کي ڏوھاري محسوس ڪرڻ نه ڏيو جيڪو سنڀاليندڙ ڪري رھيو آھي. ڪينسر اڃا تائين هندستان ۾ ممنوع آهي. اسان کي ڪينسر کي عام بيماري وانگر علاج ڪرڻ گهرجي. ڪنهن وٽ به جواب ناهي ته ڪينسر ڪنهن کي ڇو ٿئي ٿو، تنهنڪري نه پڇو 'مون کي ڇو'. ڊاڪٽر کي سڀني شين جي باري ۾ بلڪل واضح هجڻ گهرجي، ۽ مريض کي هميشه پنهنجي ڊاڪٽر تي يقين رکڻ گهرجي. ڪينسر لاءِ ڪڏهن به گوگل نه ڪريو ڇو ته هر ڪنهن وٽ ان سان مختلف تجربو آهي.

سنڀاليندڙ پڻ جسماني، ذهني، جذباتي ۽ مالي طور تي تمام گهڻو متاثر ڪن ٿا. اهو انهن لاءِ به ڏکيو سفر آهي، پر هر سنڀاليندڙ کي همت رکڻ جي ڪوشش ڪرڻ گهرجي ۽ شين کي قبول ڪرڻ گهرجي جيئن اهي آهن. کين مريض جي هر خواهش پوري ڪرڻ جي ڪوشش ڪرڻ گهرجي.

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